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Realmfulness – New Book Preview

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Hello all! I’m delighted to announce that work has commenced on my third book – Realmfulness.

After having an idea for a podcast whilst relaxing in the bath in December last year, the book has been forming in my subconscious.

The introduction was written over the summer and I’m reaching out to folk for feedback and support in reviewing the book as I write it over the coming weeks.

Thank you in advance if you’d be up for spending some time to help me produce a new book that raises the level of consciousness. If you’d like to help please email me

Blessings, Darren 🙏

Chapter One – Introduction

For thousands of years humans have yearned for two things – peace and happiness. Even for those who don’t intellectually understand this, deep within them, there is a knowing and desire to experience these two feelings. Peace feels good because it symbolizes alignment with what is and acceptance of our experience within the present moment. Happiness feels good because it shows us that we’re enjoying life and delighting in what’s presented to us. The opposite of peace is discord and the opposite of happiness is sadness. In this book, I’ll be revealing a revolutionary way to live consciously. Living consciously is about minimizing discord and sadness; whilst maximizing peace and happiness – both for yourself and for others.

      I’m assuming the reason you’re reading this book is that you’d like to cultivate more peace and happiness. The only way we can do this is by increasing our awareness and capacity to choose what we experience – what we’re conscious of. We do this by being aware of our current experience. And then, either settling there or consciously choosing to shift our awareness towards that which leads to greater peace and happiness. We all do this to varying extents – some of us more successfully than others. We may visit places we enjoy; have something tasty to eat when we’re hungry; be kind to people; access the spiritual realm through prayer, nature or meditation; or choose to let go of unpleasant thoughts – focusing our minds on what’s positive and helpful. All of these examples involve awareness and choice.

      Our ability to enjoy peace and happiness is always a factor of two components: The first is the breadth of our awareness. The broader our awareness the more options we have on where to focus. And the second component is our capacity to choose where we focus our energy and what we allow to enter into our consciousness. Realmfulness provides the tools to broaden our awareness and strengthen our ability to choose; enabling us to live consciously.

      It helps to view our experience using the concept of four ‘realms’. There are three lower realms – the physical realm, the digital realm and the dream realm. And there’s a higher realm, known as the spiritual realm. Our consciousness, which we all share, is the bridge between the physical realm and the spiritual realm.


Figure 1 – The Four Realms

The Physical Realm

The physical realm is our form-based experience including what enters our senses. What we see, hear, taste, smell and touch. It also includes thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations. All of nature, including us, is part of the physical realm and shares the physical realm. It includes our body and everything external to us. Other planets and galaxies are part of the physical realm too. Everybody knows about this realm – especially the tiny part of it that represents life here on earth. It represents our ‘normal’ everyday experience. When most people talk about their life experience, they’re usually referring to the physical realm. It consists of the stuff we may label as being ‘real’. It’s a conditioned and constantly changing realm that influences us greatly. It blows us around through what the Buddha describes as the ‘worldly’ winds: pleasure and pain, gain and loss, fame and infamy, praise and blame. With space travel, people are even subject to these ‘winds’ outside of earth, as they’re experienced by humans anywhere in the universe – but in the interest of simplicity, let’s keep our focus here on earth in the present moment for now.

      There’s a plethora of guidance on how we can manage ourselves within the physical realm. Traditional mindfulness practice helps by allowing us to bring awareness and acceptance to our physical experience. Religions, philosophies and self-help guidance offer insights and direction to navigate this realm harmoniously. For example, being generous, kind and truthful certainly helps.

The Digital Realm

The second lower realm is the digital realm. It’s actually a part of the physical realm. It was created through the physical realm and needs the physical realm to stay online. It’s a shared virtual realm hosted by the Internet that we experience through our devices including phones, computers and TVs. Technology evolved over the centuries which led to the US Department of Defence funding a project to develop a network to connect computers. This then led to the creation of the internet in the 1990s1.

      The digital realm is different to the physical realm because it cannot be experienced directly through the senses. To access it, we need internet-connected devices. For example, we use our phones or computers to view emails or post to social media. The internet is in its infancy. Relatively speaking, human beings are immature at navigating the digital realm. There’s education, guidance and regulation, but it’s still early days and will take time to mature and evolve. Digital access and usage continues to increase and that’s why digital appears as a distinct realm in the Realmfulness models; requiring our spiritual attention and consideration.

The Dream Realm

The third lower realm is the dream realm – a temporary ‘self-generated’ experience we create through imagination, dreaming and being lost in thought. We create our own personal dreams. And we do this through dreaming when the body is asleep and also dreaming when body is awake. Examples of dreaming whilst we’re awake may include imagining how we might redecorate our home; or repeatedly imagining some past conflict. Whenever we’re lost in our thoughts imagining the past or future, we’re in the dream realm – more on that later.

      It’s interesting to contemplate that we can have our eyes open and be doing something in the physical realm, like driving or watching TV for example, and still be in the dream realm if our mind is wandering around or imagining things. The dream realm may help or hinder us, depending on whether we enter it consciously.

The Spiritual Realm

The spiritual realm is the formless infinite realm that hosts the three lower realms. It’s the source of wisdom, love and peace. People have all sorts of labels for this realm including consciousness, God, spirit, soul, Buddha nature and higher self. It’s impossible for me or anybody else to describe this realm exactly through the physical or digital realms. That said, through my words, I’d like to help you connect with it – or deepen your existing connection.

      The spiritual realm is the ‘primary’ or ‘higher’ realm due to its infinite power – it’s able to create and direct the lower realms. The spiritual realm created the physical realm, which in turn created the digital realm. The physical realm also creates dream realms using our minds. Many of the world’s religions advise people to give the spiritual realm priority – it’s the ultimate source, creator and director of the lower realms.

What is Realmfulness?

Realmfulness is a practice enabling us to channel spirit (or spiritual energy) from the spiritual realm into the physical, digital and dream realms. Thus, allowing us to live consciously. Realmfulness raises our awareness of the spiritual and lower realms, empowering us with choice. It guides us to inject more consciousness into the universe, enhancing the lower realms through spirit. We can make the physical world, the Internet and our dreams more heavenly places. A positive side effect is that this practice guarantees us a peaceful mind, psychological harmony and conscious living – regardless of our individual circumstances. It brings loving kindness into the world and triggers joy and happiness within ourselves and those we connect with. Realmfulness works best when our primary objective for practicing is to channel spiritual energy. The secondary benefits are then enjoyed as a consequence.

      One of the many ways to practice Realmfulness is to ask yourself “what realms am I aware of now?”. For example, as I write this book, I know that I’m aware of the spiritual and physical realms. I’m not connected with the internet (digital realm). I’m not asleep or lost in my thoughts (dream realm). Whenever we ask “what realms am I aware of now?” we become present, disconnect from the dream realm and have the option of connecting with the spiritual realm. It’s similar to asking the question “am I mindful now?”. People have been using that question for years helping them escape from the dream realm, reconnect with the physical realm and establish mindfulness. Realmfulness takes this a stage further by intentionally including the spiritual realm within our awareness practice and allowing that to inform our choices.

      Referring back to Figure 1, we can contemplate the flow of Realmfulness for an individual. The consciousness we all share is the bridge that connects the spiritual realm to the physical realm. We each have a small part of this one consciousness, which is what makes us all unique. You could say that we each have our own personal energy channel to the spiritual realm – it’s like having your own personal internet connection installed in your home with the internet representing the spiritual realm. We all access the same spiritual realm – there’s only one spiritual realm. On an individual level, spiritually speaking, we are either conscious or unconscious within any given moment. It’s like a mobile phone being online or in airplane mode. Spiritual energy travels into our consciousness. When we’re conscious, spirit flows through us and into the lower three realms. We become agents of the spiritual realm.

      The consciousness is acting as a gateway. Connecting a formless spiritual energy with form-based energy. It’s like a radio receiver. Going back to the previous analogy, when we’re spiritually unconscious our mind is similar to a phone without an Internet connection – isolated and constrained in what it can do. And our actions are reactive and unskillful. When we’re spiritually conscious our actions are responsive and skillful – guided by love and wisdom. We access an infinite source of spiritual power and wisdom to guide us, making our life peaceful and harmonious whilst enhancing the lower realms.

      We’re all different. We’ve all got our unique conditioning from the past and will naturally have our own gifts and areas within the lower realms that we’re passionate about. A big part of Realmfulness practice is choice – taking responsibility for how we wish to navigate and interact with the realms with guidance from spirit; rather than living reactively in auto-pilot mode. Realmfulness encourages us to be continuously aware of our current position, and to consciously choose where we’re directing our attention and action. Whilst it’s essential to be in the moment and accepting of our current state here and now, Realmfulness acknowledges that human beings by their very nature are works in progress; within constantly changing physical, digital and dream realms. There’s always work to be done and changes to be made in the future if we’d like to live more consciously.  


Where did Realmfulness come from?

During my twenties I turned to spiritual teachings to help reduce anxiety and straighten out my life situation after a turbulent start during childhood and early adulthood. I’ve cultivated more positive conditions, healed a lot of emotional pain, and reprogrammed myself to become more mindful and kinder. I now feel blessed to be able to lead a life that is happier, more peaceful and creative. I’ve gained the ability to access the spiritual realm at will, which provides an abundance of love and freedom regardless of what’s going on in the three lower realms. This means that I can find peace and comfort even during difficult times. I don’t consider myself to be perfect though – that’s for sure! I still often discard the spiritual realm and cause myself and others harm – I’m “work in progress”.

      Over the years I’ve benefited from spiritual practices from a number of different sources including teachings from Buddhism, Christianity, Yoga & Eckhart Tolle. I’ve synthesized what I’ve learned and produced new teachings to help myself and others with mindfulness and spiritual practice. My first book, Being Present2, was primarily about mindfulness and using the present moment to connect with the spiritual realm. My second book, Living a Life of Harmony3 contains seven guidelines to help people navigate the physical realm.

      As I’ve worked with these different spiritual teachings, my own personal practice has evolved into what I’m describing as Realmfulness. Writing this book has been about documenting my own practice as well as creating something new. I know that Realmfulness works because I’ve experienced it first hand through my own experience. And by teaching others I’ve learned that it provides an effective way of practicing awareness and channeling spiritual energy. Realmfulness is relatively straightforward to understand through keeping the various concepts and teachings at a high level whilst enabling people to relate with the spiritual realm to an infinite depth.

What’s in the book?

Chapter Two goes into more depth on the structure and scope of Realmfulness; describing its definition, ethos, guidelines, and techniques that form the practice. I outline why it’s needed and share the multitude of benefits it offers to help motivate you to learn and apply it in your own life. I also explain the difference between Realmfulness and mindfulness. This is particularly helpful if you already have some knowledge of traditional mindfulness practice. I explain how Realmfulness integrates with some of the world’s religions and philosophies.

      We each have our own patterns when it comes to navigating the realms. Much of the time these are unconscious and habitual. Some patterns help us, whilst others hinder us. Chapter Three contains a self-assessment tool which you can use to baseline where you are today. Including how much time and emphasis you’re giving to each realm in your day-to-day life situation – reviewing what’s creating happiness and stress. We’ll look into how you connect with the spiritual realm currently. I encourage you to learn and accept where you are starting from before deciding what you might like to change.

      Chapters four through to eleven contain two chapters dedicated to each realm. A chapter describing the realm’s characteristics; followed by a chapter with tips and practices you can use to navigate the realm skillfully. I recommend you read both chapters in the order they’re presented rather than go straight to the tips and practices. Understanding the realm helps you become more aware of it, which is an essential part of Realmfulness. It also lays the foundations for being able to navigate the realm using the guidance in the tips and practices. I’ll be helping you discover each realm’s unique set of characteristics and what differentiates it from the other realms. The benefits of each realm are provided along with a few cautionary pointers to help keep your life harmonious and peaceful.

      Finally, in Chapter Twelve, I’ll describe how to navigate between all four realms in everyday life. Making conscious decisions about which realms to bring awareness to and how to adjust your depth of awareness.

Practicing Realmfulness

I’ve written this book to give you a thorough understanding of what Realmfulness is. And how to use it to heighten your awareness and power of choice. If this is the first time you’ve connected with Realmfulness then I’d recommend you read the book cover to cover. Enjoy pausing, re-reading and contemplating sections you find more challenging to understand. I’ll be sharing some profound spiritual concepts with you. And these concepts will take some digesting and integration. Realmfulness challenges and encourages us to transcend our awareness from the lower realms (physical, digital and dream realms). And to allow our consciousness to dwell within the spiritual realm more of the time and ultimately all of the time.

      I’m sure many people will find an intellectual or analytical study of Realmfulness fascinating and enjoyable – I certainly do. However, Realmfulness is ultimately about practice. Practice, practice, practice will enable you to extract the most value from what’s presented here, transform your life experience, and contribute to the spiritual evolution of our world. This book is full of practical tips, meditations, questions and reflections that have been designed to turn the intellectual understanding into a personal transformation. I’d love for you to take the time to integrate the teachings in this book into your daily life.

      Successful practitioners of Realmfulness may choose to read this book a number of times. Repetition is one of the best ways to memorize and internalize new concepts and behaviors. I’ve created the book to be used in three ways – as an introduction to Realmfulness, a practice manual, and a quick reference guide.

      Finally, although you have everything you need here to understand and practice Realmfulness by yourself, it’s highly beneficial if you arrange to study and apply the teachings with others. If you have access to people who might be interested in spiritual development, then consider introducing them to this book and transforming together. Taking time to discuss, challenge and understand the book’s content is a great way to create or deepen friendships. And similar to a holiday in that it’s often more fun when it’s shared.

      I’m delighted that you’ve chosen to discover the practice of Realmfulness. Let’s make a start by delving deeper into understanding what Realmfulness is and how it can be used to help us live more consciously through awareness and choice…

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